One of the things I have learned on this journey, is that writing about your child, especially one going through a harder than average existence is hard. What is harder is telling their story as a teen. Thus the break. As many of you know the suicide rate for transgender youth is alarmingly high. I have felt for the past 5 years like I am holding my breath...afraid to breath, to look away for a moment, for fear of the worst. We have had some very very dark days and I'm sure there will be more to come, but I feel now we have navigated the path into adulthood and our family is grounded, well and more and more healthy each day.
Cory is now 19 and doing amazing! I am a proud grateful mom.
He has graduated high school. Is in recovery from addiction, having successfully completed an in patient treatment program after three attempts. Has navigated heartbreak and depression. And now has his first job, and just got another job where he gets to talk about hockey.
I am bursting with pride and eager to start telling his story again. Hopefully he will join in too.
Thursday, September 25, 2014
Tuesday, September 23, 2014
Well, its been a long time since I posted, and for that I apologize. One thing I have learned in our travels in the past few years is that parenting a teenager (or two) is challenging....parenting a trans teen is more than just challenging...it can be exciting, terrifying and joyous all in one. It can also be private and personal, and blogging about your teenagers' journey through dating, sex, heartbreak and hormones seems too personal. Now that Cory is 17, turning 18 in January, we decided to start again, and tell you more about his journey.
For those of you who have not have the honour of meeting my incredible son, Cory is mature beyond his years, kind, political, articulate, smart and still a damn good hockey player. He has become a fierce advocate for transgender and gender non-conforming young people, speaking at conferences and become an integral educator within the Vancouver School Board. He has attended the Nike LGBT sports summit for the past two years trying to affect positive change for LGBT athletes across North America. Like other super hero's he still has his day to day life of high school, hockey and hanging out with friends.
Cory's dad and I have split up and he has moved back to his home in Holland, we moved into a cute house in East Vancouver near his still amazing high school; his sister Molly is now 13, looking 17 and started high school this week. We are all happy, healthy and thriving. We laugh every day and the trials and tribulations of our unique family. We joke that someone should do a reality show about us....lucky you, if you read this blog, you are witness to our crazy reality.