Well folks. After a long break from blogging, I am happy to report Anneke and I are back to writing. We have a lot of catching up to do, so hopefully the next few weeks will be full of updates that will string the past year together.
The biggest news.....A. has decided to transition to be male.
S/he struggled with this for a while. Being gender fluid for so long s/he really wanted to be considered female but be allowed to take testosterone and have the body he wants. Seems this is so off the grid, our endocrinologist would not approve.
A.'s new name is Cory. It suits him. It's a great name.
Funnily enough it was not on our shortlist of names when we were expecting him almost 15 years ago. Thank you to Cory Schnieder for the inspiration. ;)
The long break from blogging was at Cory's request as he figured out what he wanted to do. Seems the main consideration was hockey. Switching from girls hockey to boys hockey is no small feat. In doing so, he has made history and his dreams of playing in the NHL are alive and well.
Cory has been on testosterone now for 6 weeks. He has grown over 2 inches, his voice is changing, and he is even growing a bit of a movember stach.
I have a son .... an amazing, brave, wonderful son, who is an inspiration and promises to change the world.
Congratulations to your whole family! You certainly have a long road ahead of you, and I imagine the path that led you this far was quite a journey. But Cory has already made one of the most adult decisions he ever will, and I hope he is able to surround himself with supporting people. I'm looking forward to following your story again!
ReplyDeleteThanks to both of you for sharing your story. I discovered your blog shortly before you took your break. I was hoping you'd be back when the time was right.
ReplyDeleteMy husband is trans. But unlike Cory, he did not grow up in a supportive environment. As a result, he only began his transition at 40. Going through puberty as a 40-year-old was a real challenge, for both of us. I must say, I'm glad those days are behind us.
Now he's 45. To see him, you would never guess his former identity. He has a full beard, a receding hairline, a hairy chest. But the struggles of his childhood and adolescence have taken their toll. He still struggles to find his place socially. He spent so much of his life hiding who he really was, it's difficult for him to let anyone see the real him. When I read your blog, I can't help but wonder what his life would have been like if his family had been able to see beyond their own gender perceptions to provide their son safe environment.
I look forward to reading about as much as Cory's journey through adolescence as he's willing to share. Indeed, you are a brave young man, and you will change the world.
Such a wonderful step in his life, and so nice to read such good news. I hope you both continue to enjoy life in the way you both want.
ReplyDeleteHugs Anna